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		<title>Choosing Not To See</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jan 2010 17:51:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brian</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So many of us have our eyes open and good vision yet we do not see.  It&#8217;s not because we&#8217;re incapable, but we just don&#8217;t look.  We don&#8217;t want to see. In U.S. politics, party members and supporters often summarily reject the ideas of other parties.  Are they unilaterally against any ideas which don&#8217;t originate [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<img style='float: left; margin-right: 10px; border: none;' src='http://www.gravatar.com/avatar.php?gravatar_id=cbfb7b5351952b7e0fba24f4a7b0c466&amp;default=http://use.perl.org/images/pix.gif' alt='No Gravatar' width=50 height=50/><p><a href="http://www.taoareyou.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/eye2.png"><img class="size-medium wp-image-344 alignright" title="eye2" src="http://www.taoareyou.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/eye2-300x300.png" alt="" width="210" height="210" /></a>So many of us have our eyes open and good vision yet we do not see.  It&#8217;s not because we&#8217;re incapable, but we just don&#8217;t look.  <em>We don&#8217;t want to see.</em></p>
<p>In U.S. politics, party members and supporters often summarily reject the ideas of other parties.  Are they unilaterally against any ideas which don&#8217;t originate from their own camp?  Or do they just refuse to see?  The desire to be correct blinds us.</p>
<p>On a personal level,  some turn their backs on the mirror when pressed to really look at themselves and their choices.  Those people who want to  believe something will not even consider an opposing view.  This is most common with religious views.  <em>My way is right, every other way is wrong.</em> There is no discussion.</p>
<p><span id="more-345"></span>While this is often obvious, even to the intentionally blind, the willful closing of our eyes is not always so apparent when dealing with our closest relationships.  We can reach a point where we stop looking at them and see only what we choose to see.  People constantly evolve over time, and we have to keep evolving our vision of them as well.  Otherwise one day you may wake up and feel as if your best friend or spouse is a stranger.</p>
<p>How?  Listen.  <em>Really </em>listen.  Look at each other when you talk.  Make regular time for sharing the details of each others lives.  Compromise.  Keep yourself integrated.  Start with your close relationships then work outwards.</p>
<p>The intentional blindness of our society comes from this: <em>Lack of integration.</em> When a society is self absorbed it fractures.  Get to know your neighbors.  Meet people in your community.  <em>Honestly</em>.  Not for appearance.  Take a genuine interest in those in your life.</p>
<p>It may not heal a society, but it may help you see again.</p>
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		<title>Nobody Told Me</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 20 Dec 2008 03:42:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brian</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This was inspired by the instrumental piece She Left Home by Djam &#38; Fam on the Karma Lounge &#8211; Chilled Global Beats CD.  It&#8217;s one of the most hauntingly beautiful pieces of music.  I have included a Youtube (not mine) link so you can listen to it as well. I&#8217;m alone right now Still not [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<img style='float: left; margin-right: 10px; border: none;' src='http://www.gravatar.com/avatar.php?gravatar_id=cbfb7b5351952b7e0fba24f4a7b0c466&amp;default=http://use.perl.org/images/pix.gif' alt='No Gravatar' width=50 height=50/><p style="text-align: left;">This was inspired by the instrumental piece <em>She Left Home</em> by Djam &amp; Fam on the Karma Lounge &#8211; Chilled Global Beats CD.  It&#8217;s one of the most hauntingly beautiful pieces of music.  I have included a Youtube (not mine) link so you can listen to it as well.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span id="more-71"></span>I&#8217;m alone right now<br />
Still not knowing how</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">I&#8217;ll always bear<br />
I was there<br />
When she left home</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">I didn&#8217;t care<br />
Was not aware<br />
When she left home</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">Nobody told me<br />
She was gone</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">I sat there<br />
No love to share<br />
So she left home</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">That night<br />
She cried<br />
Hoping I<br />
Felt something<br />
Inside<br />
But no&#8230;</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">I&#8217;m alone right now<br />
(I didn&#8217;t care)<br />
Still not knowing how<br />
(was not aware)</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">Although she told me<br />
All along</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">I let her go<br />
I couldn&#8217;t show<br />
That I felt<br />
Anything<br />
At<br />
All</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">I&#8217;m alone right now<br />
(I sat there)<br />
Still not knowing how<br />
(no love to share)</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">Since she left home</p>
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